Monday, October 17, 2011

Steps Towards A Positive Relationship

By Lois Frazier

If you just broke up from a disastrous relationship, move on immediately. Life is rich and can offer you better experiences than you had with the other person you just broke up with so explore the possibilities.

There are many things I would like to recommend you to do if only to attract the right type of people and these suggestions however, require you to focus on yourself first. Loving yourself is the greatest love of all, as the saying goes. So we should love ourselves first before we can also love others.

The first thing you have to do is to obtain the services of a professional who can help you understand yourself first. A trained therapist or counselor can help you find out certain thoughts, beliefs and behaviours which are barring you from growing into a better person.

A lot of times, things that happened in our childhood influence our current decisions even though they occurred in the past. It is important to identify what these are in order for us to move on.

After you get to know who you are, the succeeding step is to find a love guru who is gives good relationship advice and who has the time to help you through relationships. This person will work with you on the goals you have in life, particularly on the relationship you envision to achieve. What are principles you value and the things you like? What kind of set-up in a relationship are you looking for? These are some questions that you would want answered before moving to another relationship.

Your love guru will give you some comments on your situation and post personal inquiries for you to ponder. While you are doing these, you must secure yourself in a private setting that would give you the freedom to expose everything that you think and feel. Once you have settled these, you are ready to move on.

This time you will learn to see and give yourself importance differently. The mood and energy that you will project to other people will change aside from the point of view of your life and relationship with others. These new and developed personality will then attract people especially with the opposite sex. You will gain respect from them as a person at all times.

Always bear in mind that it this is a process and healing yourself will take time. Have faith in yourself, focus on your goals, and make the effort to build yourself up again. Remember, you are important. You deserve love. You deserve to be be respected and treated kindly.

Congratulations! You are a step closer to moving into a productive relationship just by reading this article. Continue moving in this direction to achieve a positive relationship later on.

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